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FIRE: my mid-life crisis

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Today I’ll explain how my journey to FIRE (Financial independence, retire early) is my mid-life crisis. 

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The Dr-ess and I had a socially distanced playdate last week with some good friends.  While we made small talk over the laughter and screams of our kids, I had a sudden realization.  I announced that we were all about halfway through our expected life spans!   

Our friends are used to my unusual conversation starters, so they took this all in stride.  As we bemoaned this morbid fact, I joked that it’s high time for a good old fashioned mid-life crisis.  The Dr-ess brought up my Tesla Model 3, but I waved this away as a smart and well reasoned purpose.  Clearly not a mid-life crisis.

After a dubious look, the Dr-ess then said that my pursuit of moFIRE is in itself a mid-life crisis.  After a moment’s consideration, I nodded in thoughtful agreement.

Origins of my mid-life crisis

A “mid-life crisis,” according to Wikipedia, is “transition of identity and self-confidence that can occur in middle-aged individuals.”  A more nuanced view of this concept comes from an excellent article in the Atlantic that delves further into the origin of this word.  

This quote from the Atlantic article seemed to accurately describe my mindset circa 2018: 

“Their careers appear to have reached a plateau, and they realize that life from here on will be a long and inevitable decline.”

The spark of my mid-life crisis

When I think back to the beginning of my mid-life crisis, it started just two years into my life as an attending surgeon.  I was working up to 60 hours a week and commuting 20 hours a week on top of that.  I was teetering on the brink of burn out and had the unsettling feeling that I’d reached the pinnacle of my career with no where else to go.  There were no convenient career milestones coming up anymore, like med school or residency graduation. 

To console myself on the commute to and from work, I listened to a variety of podcasts. Through this gateway, I eventually found a home in the financial independence community.

A like minded community

In the FIRE community, I found people that seemed to share my yearning for bigger goals and a more interesting life.  I was fascinated at the variety of people in the community.  The spectrum of wages and spending choices was dizzying.

There were people achieving financial independence on teachers’ salaries. There were also high earners struggling to make ends meet.

I quickly seized on the goal of financial independence as a way to focus my energies and attention, and eventually break free of my golden handcuffs.

But as I crunched the numbers, I realized that the high cost of living in southern California and our spending habits were going to make achieving FIRE much harder. 

This led to my original 15 year plan for financial independence, and also my formalized goal of achieving moFIRE (morbidly obese financial independence). I decided that with the pooled incomes of my wife and I, there was no reason why we couldn’t become financially independent.

FIRE is the perfect mid-life crisis

As a mid-life crisis, shooting for financial independence is an excellent choice.  I can’t say it was completely intentional in my case, but it’s really allowed me to have that “transition of identity and self-confidence” in a productive way. 

No matter your income level, going for financial independence will take a lot of intentional changes. It’s at once all encompassing and perfectly malleable to your desired timeline and type of FIRE.

Want something that’s just a little different?  Go for the longer timeline and max out your retirement funds every month. Over a long career you’ll be better positioned than most by retirement.  You may not even notice the change to your take home pay.

Want to really blow up your life?  Go for the shortest timeline. Sell your home, take the kids out of private school, and divert 80% of your paychecks to aggressive saving.  Your friends will shake their heads and talk about you behind your back.  You’ll prove them wrong when you’re financially independent within a few short years.

Conclusion

No matter your age, you might be feeling the weight of your mortality quite strongly right now. You may be looking around at your life and wondering “is that all?”

Instead of buying a convertible and having an affair, join the FIRE community. It can offer you all the adventure you need, and if done right, the rewards can be incredible.

I’ve transitioned away from the timeline outlined in my 15 year plan to financial independence. It’s a little hard to tell right now, but I believe I’m on track to meet my ambitious SMART goal of $100,000 of cash flow by 2025.

The changes to our lives needed to achieve FIRE are more than meeting the demands of my own mid-life crisis. Whether you’re in crisis or not, I invite you along for the ride. It’ll be nothing if not interesting.

–TDD

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6 comments

Impersonal Finances November 9, 2020 - 11:33 am

Not to further dissuade anyone from buying a convertible and having an affair, but discovering FIRE as a mid-life crisis is really a best-case scenario. I’m in my 30s and what I would generally consider too young for a mid-life crisis (that all depends on how long I’ll live!), but this really resonated with me. Maybe more of a mid-life assessment, not yet in crisis territory, but pretty spot on nonetheless.

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The Darwinian Doctor November 9, 2020 - 11:02 pm

Nothing like kids, pandemics, and elections for the soul of America to put things in perspective.

From the looks of your blog, you’re well on your way to FIRE as well. No crisis necessary. We both suffer from California HCOL problem, but what can you do?

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Journal Club 11-20-20 | Passive Income MD by Peter Kim November 20, 2020 - 3:00 am

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Dr. Cory S. Fawcett November 20, 2020 - 10:10 am

Thanks for your story. I bought a sports car when I was 40 to celebrate becoming debt free. Everyone thought I was having a mid-life crisis. The reality was my wife could no longer stop me by asking if we were debt free yet. I’m going to add this to Fawcett’s Favorites next Monday.

Dr. Cory S. Fawcett
Financial Success MD

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The Darwinian Doctor November 20, 2020 - 11:01 pm

I hope it was a nice sports car, because that’s something to celebrate indeed! And thanks for including my post in your Favorites list, I’m honored!

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